The "Cool Girl" thinks of herself as "one of the guys." She prides herself on her ability to blend in with the likes and the ruckus of her male friends. She is quite knowledgeable about sports, cars, and understanding male behavior. She likes to drink beer and feels more comfortable being the only female who hangs out with a group of her male buddies than with her female peers. She is, in short, a wolf in sheep's clothing because at the end of the day, the cool girl's motives are disguised and she masks her real intentions for hanging around a group of men. While she might be a "friend" to some men, she picks and chooses whom to elevate to "more than friends."
Preface
Before beginning this little exposition of mine, allow me to preface my words. The subject matter dealt herein does not and will not apply universally to all females. Therefore, there's really no point in leaving comments attempting to discredit my material on the basis that you (or others) consider yourself to be an exemption to what's being talked about. In other words, your belief about yourself does not necessarily mean that others are also exempted. If the shoe fits, wear it. If the shoe offends, then move along. The internet's a big place.
Identifying The Cool Girl
Cool girls, despite their belief in their personal uniqueness, seem to share common characteristics among one another. It should also be mentioned that "cool girls," upon meeting each other, seem to know about each other's hidden va-genda. (Did you see what I did there? I created a new word from "vagina" and "agenda." Kudos, Richard Jeni.)
- These girls will have a disproportionate number of female to male friends. In fact, they'll almost always have more male friends than female friends. They'll explain this obvious incongruity by saying that they don't like how most other girls are full of drama and are back-stabbing. They'll also say things like, "I've always had more guy friends than girl friends." Oh, and don't forget the classic one liner, "I just get along better with men than with women." [TRANSLATION: I found the perfect way to stand out from the competition.]
- These girls will take on and act out male sports interests. She'll like football, baseball, hockey, or whatever sport that her male "friends" are interested in. She'll even remember statistics, player names, and game rules. She'll even have a favorite team. She'll make it a point to perhaps attend a sporting event and partake in the happenings. But one thing she will not do is attend this sporting event with other women. In fact, when's the last time you've heard of a group of girls gathering at some other girl's house in order to watch sports? Exactly. Now, by contrast, when's the last time you've heard of a group of girls gathering a some guy "friend's" house to watch sports? See my point? [TRANSLATION: All she's doing is plotting future conversational pieces with common interests.]
- These girls will make fun of other girls and will refer to their competition as a stereotype. Because cool girls tend to amplify the differences between themselves and other women (their competition), they'll almost always take the male friend's side when the male friend talks stereo-typically about women. And here's where the cool girl does her learning. While she will claim that she learned a lot from her older brother, she's been learning a lot just listening to what dudes talk about among themselves. She's drinking beer, watching sports, watching male behavior, and she's listening to the nuance details of conversations -- keeping track of slips of the tongue and inferences.
- Finally, the cool girl always has a plan "B." It is inevitable that a male friend will take an interest in her. If the "wrong" male friend takes an interest in her, she will excuse herself and remind him that they are just friends. But, if her intended target takes an interest in her, then it is easy enough to pass from casual friends to intimate friends. She will always have an alibi prior to her social engagements. All her seduction plans will be well thought out beforehand to account for variance in male behavior. Make no mistake, fellas. You are being watched. You are being judged.
What are you experiences with "Cool Girls" ?
2 comments:
As a psychologist I'm curious as to what their families are like and how that factors into their decision making. What do you make of it?
As with all human behavior, there are a constellation of variables that feed into a person's motivation. I believe that most (if not all) behavior serves a purpose; some kind of hidden (or obvious) goal. In other words, the "cool girl" is "cool" because she perceives it as advantageous to do so. What are the advantages? From an evolutionary point of view, one advantage is lack of female competition. The second advantage is a wider choice of mate selection.
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